Perhaps the biggest impedance in the process of doing anything positive towards re-working on this relationship is your depressed state of mind. You are angry, feel insulted and betrayed. If you can win over these feelings, which ought to happen naturally over time, you would be able to think and act in a more mature and rational manner.

Interestingly you are not the only one having such feelings. Your ex too is feeling angry, bitter and depressed for whatever has happened. In this state of mind, no positive action can ever be taken. To glide over this current phase, stay away from each other for sometime during which you do not make any attempt to get in touch..

Allowed time, your ex is likely to come around the initial feelings of hurt and resentment and would be able to think more rationally and positively towards you and the relationship. This would automatically result in some proactive actions from your ex that would eventually help you to achieve your goals.

Good memories come to the forefront and bad memories take a backseat. All your past gestures to tell your lover the love you felt are now remembered fondly. In short, the angry mind is gradually melting and turning positively towards you once more.

Apart from these inner revelations your ex is also likely to get many feedbacks from your common friends – regarding what a nice person you were and what a mistake it all was to break up the relationship, etc.

Such internal reflections and external stimuli put together convince your ex that it was actually a wrong decision to split. All said and done this could be the best way to make your ex regret breaking up with you.

Now, I don’t mean you have to go off the deep-end either. Never threaten your ex. Nothing good will ever come of threatening someone. There are healthy ways to handle what you are feeling.

You must realize that you will not be over your ex tomorrow. Getting over someone takes time. Make the time constructive and treat it as a time to learn new relationship skills. You will not only be healthier for yourself but also for the next time around with someone new.

So, feel your pain, but do not let it consume you. Put a time limit on it. When the anger starts to surface, and it will, trust me, there are safe ways to let it out where no one gets hurt.

If you still have a picture of your ex, draw a target on it and tack it up on the wall. Go buy some marshmallows and stand about ten feet from the tacked up picture. Throw the marshmallows one at a time, as hard as you can at the picture while telling him/her off. Scream at the top of your lungs, just get everything out. There are about forty-five marshmallows in a bag, throw each one and when you are done, yeah, you will have a mess but you will feel a lot better. You might even be laughing when you are finished. Ha, what bad break up?

There is something to be said for being able to laugh. If you can laugh, whatever the trouble is, it probably isn’t really that bad. You know you can handle anything at this point. You will survive and realize that it was not the end of your world, just the end of a relationship that had been bad for a long time.

If you have given yourself plenty of time (minimum six months) to get your world put back together then consider dating again. The next time you find someone you would like to get to know better, take it slow. What the heck, even play hard to get. You are stronger now and know more about what you need and want in a new relationship.

Do not give up on love, love is the most beautiful thing to be in, in the whole world.
Just take your time getting into a new relationship. Talk to whoever you are considering dating and let them know that your previous relationship ended badly and you are going to do whatever it takes to not let yourself get hurt again and avoid another bad break up.